Behind the Smile

 We all face struggles that no one sees. At times, it feels like we’re carrying the weight of the world on our own. We tell ourselves we have to keep going and handle it all, but Scripture tells us to share our burdens with one another (Galatians 6:2). Still, that can be hard. We often don’t want to admit what’s really going on inside. We bottle things up, smile through the pain, and hope no one notices what’s behind the smile.

Maybe you do have someone you can confide in, but the struggle still lingers. You keep praying, but the situation doesn’t seem to change. The stress becomes so heavy that, even when you act as though everything is fine, people can see the weariness on your face. What do we do when the burden feels too heavy to carry, and we don’t know where to turn?

It’s easy to forget that everyone is carrying something we can’t see. The saying, “Be kind; you never know what someone is going through,” reminds us that kindness matters. Not just for others, but also in how we approach every interaction. Some are struggling silently, and the way we speak or respond can either lift them up or add to their burden.

Psalm 55:22 encourages us to “Cast your burden on the Lord, and He shall sustain you.” Peter also says in 1 Peter 5:7 “casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” God may not answer immediately, or in the way we hope, but as we pour our hearts out to Him, we draw closer to Him. He wants to hear it all - every detail, every ache. Yes, He already knows your thoughts, but He wants you to bring them to Him. Life may not always be easy, but God promises that He will never leave you.

Sometimes, His answer comes through the encouragement of a friend, the wisdom of a mentor, or the prayers of a church family.  As we lean on others, Scripture reminds us to “Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life” (Proverbs 4:23). Opening up is important, but not everyone is the right person to entrust with your deepest struggles. Seeking support in safe, healthy spaces such as a trusted same-gender friend, a minister, or a counselor can help protect your heart while still allowing encouragement and guidance. Listening to God’s wisdom and exercising discernment about whom we confide in is an important part of nurturing both our hearts and our relationships.

God gave us a community to strengthen us, but He also calls us to walk in wisdom, so the very relationships meant to help us don’t become stumbling blocks. Your struggles may not vanish overnight, but God knows the weight you carry. You don’t have to carry it alone. Find a quiet place to pour out your worries and fears before God. Share them honestly, without holding back, and allow Him to meet you there as you also seek support in safe, wise ways.

As you open up to trusted people, remember to extend the same grace to others. Everyone carries hidden battles. Your kindness, encouragement, or even quiet presence might be exactly what someone needs.  Even when your circumstances haven’t changed, your heart can find rest in knowing He is with you every step of the way.

-Angie Holman, angieholman00@gmail.com